teresa kim

i see and hear a lot about unhealthy relationships. they fight all the time and scream at each other, threatening to break up every other day, but yet, they are the ones that last the longest. why is that? does the constant bickering and fighting keep the relationship more interesting than those that don’t fight and normally agree on things? i’ve never been the type to pick little fights with my guy. in my previous relationships, we hardly ever fought and if we did we let it simmer down before acting irrationally. i’ve always credited myself for being such a rational person during fights in my relationships, with occasional outbursts of course. but what if, those fights are healthy for the relationship; it’s what’s keeping the two of you together. it means, you can overcome obstacles the world throws at you, TOGETHER. i’ve always thought it was good that we never fought, that we agreed on a lot of things, that we laughed it off and made jokes about them. am i wrong, because those relationships ended. even when it did end we were both rational. my friends say i’m crazy for taking it so well, but what if i’m not? i’m really dying in the inside and  it hurts so much my heart can’t even handle it. yes, i’ve broken down plenty of times before but eventually i have to pull myself together and stay together. the hard part is staying together (no pun intended). the frustration of putting on an act that you don’t care but really all you can do is care. 

i said i credit myself for being a rational person, maybe i’m too rational and that’s what’s ruining my relationships. i’m only rational because  i refuse to be called a crazy bitch by some guy and his friends. i’m a jealous person, i’m only human. will i ever admit to it is a different story. this only occurs when we are broken up and our intimate relationship has come to an end.

in my conclusion, i say have fights with your boyfriend/girlfriend because the little bickering and jealousy is what makes your relationship so strong. the disagreements mean you’re two different people who are willing to compromise and accept each other for who each other are. the jealousy means you care about each other and only want that person all to yourself and no one else.  i don’t mean for you to threaten to break up or break up every time there is a fight but disagree, argue, and make up. just choose your fights wisely and your words cautiously. words are dangerous, once they are said they can never be forgotten or taken back.